**Small rewards can be useful. I’d stop the $1 “rent” now, use bedtime rewards temporarily, and keep paid cleanup as an optional extra job.** The American Academy of Pediatrics supports rewards for clear, achievable goals and recommends gradually phasing them out as the behavior becomes routine. [AAP guidance](https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/Pages/Positive-Reinforcement-Through-Rewards.aspx)

**For sleeping in her own bed:** First find out what brings her into yours: fear, nightmares, wanting company, or an established habit. A reward can encourage practicing a bedtime routine; fear also needs reassurance and support.

I’d drop the charge because it risks making seeking comfort feel costly. Taking back money she has earned also undermines the reward arrangement: the CDC specifically advises keeping earned rewards. [CDC guidance](https://www.cdc.gov/parenting-toddlers/responding-to-behavior/using-rewards.html)

Choose something she can deliberately do, such as getting into her bed after stories or returning there with your help after waking. Make clear that she can always call you when frightened or unwell. Keep a predictable bedtime routine and calmly help her settle. [AAP bedtime guidance](https://www.healthychildren.org/english/healthy-living/sleep/pages/bedtime-trouble.aspx)

Cash is one possible reward. A sticker or choosing tomorrow’s bedtime story may be just as appealing to her. Agree on the arrangement ahead of time, and acknowledge the specific effort she made.

**For her brother’s Lego:** Paying $1 seems reasonable if she freely accepts an extra job. I’d also give both children ordinary cleanup responsibilities appropriate to their abilities. Her brother can practice putting pieces in a bin with your help; she shouldn’t become responsible for his mess simply because she’s older. Thank her specifically: “You put the Lego away—that helped us.”

**When to stop:** Follow the habit, rather than a particular birthday. Once bedtime is consistently manageable, explain that you’ll gradually reduce the rewards. For example, move from a reward each successful night to one for several nights, then retire the chart while continuing encouragement. Forgetting to ask for the reward can be a sign she’s ready. [AAP guidance on phasing out rewards](https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/Pages/Positive-Reinforcement-Through-Rewards.aspx)

If she starts bargaining over every routine task, or bedtime remains distressing despite support, reassess the arrangement. The useful question is whether she’s becoming more capable and comfortable—and whether the system is making family life easier.